Surgery and Such

We recently found out that Josh has to have surgery on his shoulder. About 4 years ago Josh was in a serious car accident with his parents. He ended up breaking his shoulder but nobody knew it. Now he is having serious pain and problems with it. While it is only orthoscopic surgery, it is a bit scary to me to have my new husband go under the knife (ok, a bit dramatic). At any rate, Josh will be meeting with a surgeon very soon and we will just have to go from there. My biggest fear is not Josh having the actual procedure, but rather the recovery. I am definitely not a care giver and I tend to lose patience. What if I fail this first true test of being a good wife? I don't want to hurt Josh either physicaly or emotionally. I find this whole situation rather daunting. I guess time will tell.